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How Do You Help

A friend has just shared their pain with you, maybe even their thoughts of ending it all. What should you say back - and what shouldn't you say?

1question 1
wrong
"Suicide is wrong" or "You'll go to hell" or "are you stupid?" - judging them may shut them down
right
"How long have you been feeling this way?" - ask questions to better understand where they are coming from.

2question 2
wrong
"Things will be better tomorrow" or "I'm sure you'll get over it" - you can't promise this, and it can make it seem like you just don't understand
right
"I love you" or "I care" or "You're not alone in this" -you just have to be there for them.

3question 3
wrong
"Believe me, I know how you feel" - no you don't, you're not in their shoes, and this isn't about you and your feelings
right
"I can't imagine what it's like for you, and I'm sorry for what you're feeling" - demonstrates compassion for what they're going though.


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